Dear Steve and Shirley,
My husband and I are in our late 40's and we've been married for 20 years. We have one son that was active in sports and he worked with my husband helping to build his trucking business. Our son is 19 years old and he recently left the nest and moved about 2 hours from us to be closer to school.
He decided to change his major and transferred to a better school for his degree program, and I was ecstatic. My husband tried to make him stay closer to home, and I had to talk some sense into him so our son could pursue his dreams.
As soon as my son moved into his new place in his new city, my husband went into a depressed mood, and I did my best to keep him company and entertain him as much as I could. I realized that my husband does not have real friends. He has guys that work with him and my son. He stopped talking to his buddies while he was getting his business going, so they eventually stopped coming around.
All he did was go to our son's games, go out to eat with our son, work with our son, and watch movies with our son. It's hard for my husband to sit home and relax without trying to FaceTime our son.
My son sent me a text telling me that he was moving in with his girlfriend and he's hoping his dad will reconnect with his friends so he won't call him so much. I didn't tell my husband about the text because I didn't want to crush him.
Yesterday, he said that we should go visit my son for Easter, and I made up a lot of excuses why we shouldn't. The only thing that keeps him occupied is sex, but I'm not going to keep doing that all the time, so he needs his friends.
Should I plan a playdate for him? How do I get him out of this house more?